Whenever I Employed a Housemaid, My Husband Got Involved With Her — Now I’ve Chosen to Hire Male Helpers Only

My name is Esther, and I live in Nairobi, Kenya. For years, I battled a painful issue that brought tension, shame, and frustration into my marriage. Every time I brought in a housemaid to assist with daily chores, my husband somehow ended up getting involved with her.

I tried everything—changing maids frequently, setting firm boundaries, and even seeking counseling—but nothing seemed to resolve the situation. It became a never-ending source of stress in my home. I felt helpless and deeply embarrassed, and the trust in my marriage continued to fade. I loved my husband, but I had no idea how to safeguard both my marriage and my own peace.

At first, I blamed the maids. I assumed maybe they were being flirtatious or encouraging his behavior. But then I started questioning myself, wondering if my husband would behave this way no matter who was hired. I spent many nights in tears, struggling to understand why this pattern kept repeating.

Friends offered advice, suggesting stricter household rules or even monitoring the house. But regardless of what I tried, the same thing happened again and again. Each time I hired a new maid, my husband managed to pursue her behind my back. It became emotionally exhausting and left me feeling like a normal, trusting marriage was impossible. The pressure took a toll on my health, my work performance, and even my social life. During this period, I..To Continue Reading, Click Here